My Spiritual Pet Peeve: “We are so blessed.”

One of my big spiritual pet peeves right now is when Christians say things like: “We just had such a great beach vacation. We are so blessed.”

No. You are fortunate. You should be thankful. You should acknowledge what a great vacation you had and what a luxury it is to have such an experience. You should be GRATEFUL.

But for something to be true, its inverse must also be true.

And by proclaiming your beach vacation a “blessing” what you’re saying is “My good circumstances are evidence of God’s blessing on my life.”

The inverse of which would be, “My difficult circumstances are evidence of God withholding his blessing … or of God’s curse on my life.”

And for a follower of Jesus, this has no scriptural truth whatsoever.

In fact, THIS is what God considers worthy of His “blessing” –

“God blesses those who are poor and realize their need for him,
for the Kingdom of Heaven is theirs.
4 God blesses those who mourn,
for they will be comforted.
5 God blesses those who are humble,
for they will inherit the whole earth.
6 God blesses those who hunger and thirst for justice,
for they will be satisfied.
7 God blesses those who are merciful,
for they will be shown mercy.
8 God blesses those whose hearts are pure,
for they will see God.
9 God blesses those who work for peace,
for they will be called the children of God.
10 God blesses those who are persecuted for doing right,
for the Kingdom of Heaven is theirs.

11 “God blesses you when people mock you and persecute you and lie about you and say all sorts of evil things against you because you are my followers. 12 Be happy about it! Be very glad! For a great reward awaits you in heaven. And remember, the ancient prophets were persecuted in the same way.

Matthew 5:1-12 (NLT)

So, when you are relating something positive that’s happened or going on, please don’t Christianize it by calling it a “blessing.” Instead, say something like, “We just had such a great beach vacation. We are really thankful for that time together!”

And, when you are claiming God’s blessing, or you are asking for God’s blessing, understand that the process of being “blessed” is going to be a whole life’s journey that includes:

  • realizing our utter need for Him
  • mourning
  • being humbled and learning humility
  • hungering and thirsting for justice
  • being merciful
  • having a pure heart
  • working for peace
  • being persecuted
  • being mocked
  • being lied about and having evil things said about you

In short, to ask for and expect to receive God’s blessing is to surrender YOUR life and YOUR heart and YOUR will to Him to be made more and more like that of Jesus, who fully embodied each of those things.

And, why in the world would someone want that?

Because, I expect God’s true blessing is more abundantly beautiful and wonderful than any “good circumstances” I could possibly imagine or ask for here on earth, for God promises “a great reward awaits you in heaven.”


Persecution: Luke 23:28-46 and John 19:26-30

In addition to the physical torture Jesus endured during His trials and execution, Jesus faced those who mocked him, lied about him, mischaracterized his ministry, and aimed to destroy his reputation.  And not just by anyone, but by His own people.  Pilate was ready to set him free when the crowd shouted for the release of Barrabas and the crucifixion of Jesus.  The Romans may have carried out the sentence, but it was the Jewish people – Jesus’ own – who sentenced Him to it.

We know that throughout Jesus’ ministry, He taught us to love our enemies, turn the other cheek, and persevere persecution.  But there is a degree of pain that is unique when we are persecuted by “our own people” – those who once claimed to have loved us – a family member, a spouse, a close friend, a church member, or a spiritual leader – that makes it particularly difficult to endure.

Adding to our hurt, we might feel emotionally or spiritually paralyzed because no matter how “right” we think we are, nor how sure we are that we sit in “Truth,” we can’t break through to the inner chambers of the other person’s heart.  Where there was once a warm, vibrant, loving relationship is now overtaken by cold, hard apathy at best, and intentional, focused aggression at worst.  As such, the knowledge that there truly is nothing we can do increases the paralyzing, panicky, anxious sensation in the pit of our stomach.  How, then, ought we respond? Is there godly “action” we can take when we are being persecuted by those whom we love, who once claimed to have loved us?

We fully acknowledge that Jesus’ purpose for dying on the cross was to take on our death – the punishment of our sins – and thereby, secure our salvation by His grace.  And Jesus’ death on the cross also reminds us that He endured infinitely greater suffering than we ever will – and that every relationship in the Lord will be fully restored in the New Jerusalem.  But, from the cross, Jesus also provided us with just the action plan we need on this side of heaven when, as Christians, we, too, are persecuted by “our own.”

And, as I would expect, Jesus gives us a solution that requires us to look only inside our own hearts – and not at the hearts of those who aim to hurt us.  From His place on the bloody tree, Jesus spoke seven times.  It is in these seven statements where Jesus gives us an action plan for how we are to respond when we, too, are persecuted by our own.  The result is complete release and total freedom, even amid ongoing persecution.

“Do not cry for me; cry for yourselves and for your children…If men do these things when the tree is green, what will happen when it is dry?” (Luke 23:28-31)

Spoken just prior to being lifted onto the cross, Jesus urges the women who mourn for Him to instead call out to God for His mercy to be on those who persecute Him.

I will not cry for me and indulge in self-pity, but I will “cry” (get on my face and cry out to God) for His mercy to be on those who persecute me – and for others whose lives are impacted by my persecutors.  Lord have mercy.

“Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” (Luke 23:34)

Jesus goes before The Father to ask forgiveness for all those who are in the midst of crucifying Him.  He doesn’t wait until after the Resurrection to forgive them.  He doesn’t expect the crucifixion to stop because of His act of forgiveness.  (In fact, His enduring the crucifixion is the very act of forgiveness.)  He doesn’t wait for those who persecute Him to be sorry or to ask for forgiveness.  His forgiveness is between Him and The Father.  He gives it freely and He gives it first.

Jesus’ forgiveness is perfect and complete, and therefore, it can be once-given.  Mine is not.  If I have to repeatedly go before the Father to forgive those who persecute me, that’s okay.  If I have to go daily before the Father to forgive those who persecute me, that’s okay.  Any un-forgiveness in my heart toward those who persecute me will inhibit my relationship with the Father.  And if that means I have to daily take it before Him, admit my imperfect forgiveness, and ask for His help to make it complete, He will make it perfect for me.

(To the repentant criminal): “I tell you the truth, today you will be with me in paradise.”  (Luke 23:40-43)

Jesus continues His ministry, even during His crucifixion.  He never strays off message.  He is not distracted by His own pain and suffering.

I will not allow Satan to distract me from completing my ministry every day – whether at home, in a secular workplace, or a Christian organization – even amid ongoing persecution.  I will repent of my own sin, daily claiming the promise of salvation for me, which will, in and of itself, give me all I need to then lead others to the Lord.

(To His mother and to John): “Dear Woman, here is your son,” and “Here is your mother.” (John 19:26-27)

Even in the midst of his own suffering, Jesus leaves no business unfinished nor any relationship uncared for.

Setting aside my personal pain, I will finish every task The Lord puts before me to my fullest ability and make sure every relationship is well cared for. 

“I am thirsty.” (John 19:28)

Jesus did not need something to drink.  He asks to taste the vinegar just prior to giving up His Spirit.  Rather than asking for the drink as the means of physical refreshment, I wonder if He is simply choosing to continue to engage with those who persecute Him, continue to show His love for them, even though that means willingly accepting their bitterness and ugly-tasting offering.

I will continue to engage with those who persecute me, willingly accepting their bitterness because to shut off the relationship with them means to shut down my testimony of God’s love for them. 

“It is finished.” (John 19:30)

Jesus FINISHED His part in God’s plan for our salvation.  He couldn’t go halfway and ask God to just take away the rest.  He had to finish the task completely in order for God’s plan to be complete.  Because Jesus finished, His is not only an example for us to follow, but a promise for us to claim of a final END to our persecution when we reach heaven.

I will finish my part completely.  I will complete whatever task I have.  But, I will also claim that Jesus FINISHED death (physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual death), and therefore, we have the promise that eternal suffering, persecution and condemnation are NOT for those who are in Christ Jesus.

“Father, into your hands I commit my Spirit.” (Luke 23:46)

Upon finishing His task, Jesus commits His spirit unto God the Father.  He is completely surrendered to the will of the Father.

I commit my life and my work into the Father’s hands because I belong to Him alone.  I live to glorify and please Him, not those who persecute me.  My life is not in their hands; rather, I place my life into His hands, completely surrendered to a loving Father whom I trust.